Table of Contents
Introduction 13
To the Reader 19
Understanding Domestic Violence 21
Three Dimensions of Violence 23
What Is Domestic Violence? 24
Is Domestic Violence a Joke? 29
Is Domestic Violence a Nightmare? 32
What Are the Causes of Domestic Violence? 33
Understanding the Domestic Violence Law 35
Steps to Stopping Domestic Violence 37
Affirmations to Stop Domestic Violence 39
Three-Dimensional Thinking 41
Three Dimensions of Human Behavior 44
Three Dimensions of Human Life 47
Three Types of People in Our Lives 49
Fallible Employee and Employer 50
Fallible Husband and Wife 51
Day, Night, and Twilight 51
Neutral Thinking 52
Steps to Enter into the Neutral Dimension 53
Energy and Magnetic Field 54
Summary 57
Understanding Our Perception and Behavior 59
Anger 64
Common Causes of Anger 65
Three Dimensions of Anger 66
How Do We Get Angry? 67
Summary 72
Skills and Strategies 75
Section One: Understanding Conflicts
with Your Spouse or Partner 75
Three Dimensions of Conflict 76
Positive Conflict Resolution 78
Negative Conflict Resolution 78
Neutral Conflict Resolution 79
Section Two: Understanding Your Angry Spouse or Partner 80
Timeout 81
Self-Talk 85
Who Is Responsible for Our Anger? 87
Section Three: Understanding Our Communication Styles 88
Four Styles of Communication 91
Restoring Communication between Spouses or
Partners 93
Section Four: Understanding Our Stress 94
Three Dimensions of Stress 95
Fight, Flight, and Freeze 98
Steps to Deal with Stress 100
Dealing with Freeway Stress 100
Dealing with Job Stress 102
Dealing with Marital Stress 103
Summary 105
Section Five: Understanding Our Habits and
Addictions 116
Three Dimensions of Habits and Addictions 108
How Habits and Addictions Are Formed 109
Addictions to Substances 110
Steps to Overcoming Addiction to Substances 112
Section Six: Understanding Our Problems 114
Three Dimensions of the Problem 115
What Is a Problem? Is it Something
We Donât Like? 115
Who Is Right and Who Is Wrong? 117
Absolute Thinking: All or Nothing 118
Forgiveness 121
Section Seven: Understanding Our Rights and
Responsibilities 122
Conclusion 125
About the Author 127
About the Book 129